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The Orange Story : Interest-Based Negotiation and Communication

Here is a simple story to illustrate the difference between positions and interests.

Once there was an orange and two people who sat together, fighting over this orange.

"I want this orange !"

"No, it's my orange. I want it !"

They both wanted this lovely orange, and were convinced that they just had to have it.

"Hey, I bought this orange!". "I would rather throw it away than give it to you !"

"If you don't give me the orange, I am not going to give you the sandwich that you want!"

Their conversation saddened both of them, but neither would give in. They went on and on. Finally, their stalemate broke when one declared, "There is one fair way to take care of this, you know." The other relented, "Yeah, yeah, I know. Just like Solomon, we can cut it in half."

And so, that's just what they did. A few days later, they ran into each other. After exchanging hellos, one asked, "Hey, why did you want that orange the other day ?"

Surprised by the question, the other responded, "Well, obviously, I wanted it to make some orange juice !"

This wasn't so obvious to the other who exclaimed, "Oh, my goodness ! If only I had known. I only need the rind to make marmalade. We could have both had what we really wanted !"

They both just shook their heads. Being so head-strong had cost them both an opportunity.

Perhaps you can recall making an assumption like this. Ineffective communication often costs us what we really want, and sometimes prevents us from getting what we truly need.
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Motivational Speaker: Kelly Swanson Quotes





I came across this great motivational speaker, Kelly Swanson and wanted to share some of her quotes.  Very inspirational!

“It’s a word that’s on my heart these days – Forgiveness. The power of it. The grace in it. The need for it. The gift it gives to those who receive it. The greater gift it gives to those who give it. I marvel that forgiveness is not a standard human emotion – for the heart fights for justice and vengeance.” Kelly Swanson

“I carried the belief into adulthood that to be successful meant to look like everyone else. But I wasn't like everyone else…It turns out that being different isn't such a bad thing. In fact, it's a greatthing. In fact, it's everything. I have learned that it's not blending in that makes you a success, but standing out among the crowd.” Kelly Swanson

“Know that there will be things that go wrong that are beyond your control. Accept that, and go into it from the beginning knowing what's really important. Lower your expectations. I'm not saying to change your plans, just your reaction when things don't go the way you planned.” Kelly Swanson

“You can live your life stiff and proper, obsessed with appearances, measuring the value in others by the degree of china or thread count in a pillow, measuring every step as if all the world were watching and you so desperately don't want to let them see you fall. Or you can live your life desperately happy despite your circumstances - looking for every opportunity to throw out your arms and dance.” Kelly Swanson

“Have you chosen your teammates wisely? Are you surrounded by people who encourage you to be good enough - or are you surrounded by people who encourage you to break a new record? Or, bless your heart, are you just now realizing that you're the only one in the race? The choice is yours. The race has already started. They won't stop and pull you in. You've got to jump in and start running.” Kelly Swanson

“Juggles never stopped being a clown. Day in and day out. It stayed his dream and remained his passion. Even when his hair fell out and he was too weak to honk his nose - even from his bed, when what little fans that were left had to come to him. It was March of 1998 when Juggles died, wearing a big red nose and a contented smile. He never made more than $50 a job.
How do you measure success?

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Mahatma Gandhi Quotes


Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi's  (a.k.a Mahatma Gandhi) life itself is a lesson for everyone who believes in themselves ,that change for a good causes lies within.










 
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Motivational Speaker: Barack Obama Quotes





As president, being a motivational speaker is an important part of reaching an audience.  Barack Obama is one of the many presidents who have done so and these are some of his most memorable quotes.

“I'm inspired by my own children, how full they make my heart. They make me want to work to make the world a little bit better. And they make me want to be a better man.” Barack Obama

“Change will not come if we wait for some other person, or if we wait for some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.” Barack Obama

“If you're walking down the right path and you're willing to keep walking, eventually you'll make progress.” Barack Obama

“We don't ask you to believe in our ability to bring change, rather, we ask you to believe in yours.” Barack Obama

“Any fool can have a child. That doesn’t make you a father. It’s the courage to raise a child that makes you a father.” Barack Obama

“…there is nothing so satisfying to the spirit, so defining of our character, than giving our all to a difficult task.” Barack Obama

“Making your mark on the world is hard. If it were easy, everybody would do it. But it's not. It takes patience, it takes commitment, and it comes with plenty of failure along the way. The real test is not whether you avoid this failure, because you won't. it's whether you let it harden or shame you into inaction, or whether you learn from it; whether you choose to persevere.” Barack Obama

“…it's only when you hitch your wagon to something larger than yourself that you realize your true potential.” Barack Obama

““All of us - we should do everything we can to make sure this country lives up to our children's expectations.” Barack Obama

“Don't let your failures define you.” Barack Obama

“We now live in a world where the most valuable skill you can sell is knowledge.” Barack Obama
 

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Mahatma Gandhi quotes



The father of Indian Nation, Mahatma Gandhi. Who has sacrificed his entire life for the nation. Who has constantly strived to see the India free from the british rule. With the powerful weapon "AHIMSA" he has sent a great message , a new way of freedom fighting.

This October, 2nd  2012. India celebrates his birthday with great honour.



Below are the few quotes from Mahatma Gandhi :



" To give service to a single heart by a single act is better than a thousand heads bowing in prayer".

 
"In prayer is is better to have a heart without words than words without a heart ".



"It is easy enough to be friendly to one's friends.But to befriend the one who regards himself as your enemy is the quintessence of true religion. The other is mere business ".


"Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony".






"When I admire the wonders of a sunset or the beauty of the moon, my sould expands in the worship of the creator".




"The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others".
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Gandhi Jayanti Quotes



 


 A short story on Gandhi Jayanti :

Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi was born on 2 October 1869.

The son of a senior government official, Gandhi was born and raised in a Hindu Bania community in coastal Gujarat, and trained in law in London. Gandhi became famous by fighting for the civil rights of Muslim and Hindu Indians in South Africa, using the new techniques of non-violent civil disobedience that he developed.
 
Returning to India in 1915, he set about organising peasants to protest excessive land-taxes. A lifelong opponent of "communalism" (i.e. basing politics on religion) he reached out widely to all religious groups.
 
He became a leader of Muslims protesting the declining status of the Caliphate. Assuming leadership of the Indian National Congress in 1921, Gandhi led nationwide campaigns for easing poverty, expanding women's rights, building religious and ethnic amity, ending untouchability, increasing economic self-reliance, and above all for achieving Swaraj—the independence of India from British domination.


Here are the few quotes from Mahatma Gandhi :


"My life is my message ".


" Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will".



"We must become the change we want to see ".


"The future depends on what we do in the present".


"Their is no god higher than truth".



"Glory lies in the attempt to reach one's goal and not in reaching it".





"A 'NO' uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a 'yes' merely  uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble. "



" A man who has completely innocent, offered himself as a sacrifice for the good of others, including his enemies, and become the ransom of the world. It was a perfect art.



" A principle is the expression of perfection, and as imperfect beings like us cannot practise perfection,we devise every moment limits of its compromise in practise."



"A vow is a purely religious act which cannot be taken in a fit of passion. It can be takne only with a mind purified and composed and with GOD as witness."



"All compromise is based on give and take, but there can be one give and take on fundamentals. Any compromise on mere fundamentals is a surrender. For it is all give and no take.



" You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if an few drops of the ocean are dirty,
the ocean does not become dirty.




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Car Quotes



A car can massage organs which no masseur can reach. It is the one remedy for the disorders of the great sympathetic nervous system.” Jean Cocteau

“Buy a used car with the same caution a naked man uses to climb a barbed-wire fence.” Author Unknown

“A car seems like a comfy, happy place. When you hit the velvety highway out there, that's when it all makes sense.”  Americans' love affair with cars, trucks and SUVS continues

It's not the best-looking car and not the fastest car, but it gets me there.”

Cars are like an extension or a representation of ourselves. Joining with them empowers us and allows us to overcome impossible tasks, such as traveling 60 miles per hour under our own control. A sense of control and power, when you are at one with your machine, is addicting.” Cars: Why Do We Love Those Machines

“The winner ain't the one with the fastest car its the one who refuses to lose.” Dale Earnhardt

“Everything in life is somewhere else, and you get there in a car.” E.B. White

“Shutting off the thought process is not rejuvenating; the mind is like a car battery - it recharges by running.” Bill Watterson

“The car has become the carapace, the protective and aggressive shell, of urban and suburban man.” T.S. Eliot




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10 Best Quotes


 



"What sculpture is to a black of marble, education is to a human soul".
                                                                                                                      -JOSEPH ADDISON
 
 
 
"Idealism increases in direct proportion to one's distance from the problem".
                                                                                                  -JOHN GALSWORTHY.
 
 
 
"Character consists of what you do on the third and fourth tries".
                                                                                                 -JAMES MICHENER
 
 
 
"The trust of the people in the leader reflects the confidence of the leaders in the people".
 
                                                                                                         -PAULO FREIRE

 
 
"If you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it". -L. FRANK BAUM

 
 
"He who loves the world as his body may be entrusted with the empire".- LAO TZU

 

"He does not seem to me to be a free man, Who does not sometimes do nothing". -CICERO

 
 
 
"Forgiveness does not change the past but it does enlarge the future".- PAUL BOESE.
 
 
 
 
"Only a person of deep faith can afford the luxury of scepticism".
 
                                                                                                     -FRIEDRICH W. NOETZSCHE.
 
 
 
 
"In the fields of observation chance favours only those minds which are prepared".
 
                                                                                                                      -LOUIS PASTEUR





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Josephine Hart


"Poetry has never let me down. Without poetry, I would have found life less comprehensible, less bearable and infinitely less enjoyable."















— Josephine Hart


Irish Novelist, Writer


1942 - 2011








Commentary


Reading is a habit that many of us cultivated at a very young age.  And most of us would admit that reading has helped us through some difficult times in our lives.  What do you read?  Poetry?  Novels?  Biographies?  History?  Memoirs?  Reading has brought me much comfort during my life.  Without reading I would have been a much different person.  Reading has opened my heart and shown me many worlds.  I remember once while I was in college of going to a restaurant late at night and reading poetry aloud for the shocked customers.





Creative Practice


Read aloud  one of your favorite poems for family and friends to hear.





About the Novelist


Josephine Hart who was born in 1942 in Ireland.  She wrote six novels and hosted public readings of poetry.




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Here is a video of Hart discussing her novel, Damage.












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